Happy end to the work week to my readers!! Do me a favor and make plans (definite plans) to have an extremely good weekend. We have collected boxes and newspapers (for wrapping fragiles) to move our family to Maria's house--so we have our work cut out for us. Keevin is so ready to move on to Boone, NC and start the new church plant but we have a little time left here with our family.
Did last weeks blog speak to you? If it did we will discuss it some more today. The whole unloved issue is a big one but it is very worth tackling. Did you start the 21 day journal note toward your healing? No, you say? Well, you can't expect a different life if you don't do life differently. Give it a try--it's only 21 days. And don't forget to talk to God straight up about anything that is bothering you and find a spot in the Bible to concentrate on and read. Your life will definitely change.
An interesting discussion took place in our circle of friends last night--the group that meets at my house on Thursdays for "Breaking Free" Beth Moore Bible study. Everyone of us has had the same unworthy, ugly, stupid feelings about ourselves. We concluded that a large percentage of women feel the same way. We are breaking the #1 confidence element found in Galatians 5:22-23 (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control). #1 is of course, love. Webster defines love as: strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties. This totally sounds like God's love for us. As a believer and follower of Jesus Christ we are adopted into God's family. We are children of the almighty God!! And He cares for us in a very personal way--you just need to experience it--you won't want to live without it again. Did you notice that I said we are "breaking" the # 1 confidence element? What does "breaking the feeling of love" mean? The opposite of love is hate. Webster defines hate as: an intense hostility and aversion usually deriving fror fear, anger, or sense of injury. That definition completely fits the feelings we have about ourselves. So, how do I stop breaking the # 1 confidence element? Accept the truth!
One of my friends expressed to me that my explanation of the sub and unconscious mind clicked with her. I reported on the unconscious mind back in the May 6, 2011 blog, but I'll refresh your memory. As a child and adult the thoughts, and words spoken to us are filtered through our mind. Our brain decides whether to accept the thought or reject it based on if it seems like truth. If an authority figure told you something, especially repeatedly, then the child brain is going to accept it as truth whether it is a lie or not. Those so-called truths come out in slips of the tongue or behavor or dreams. As an adult who has been informed of the wrongfulness of your so-called truths, it is your responsiblity to retrain your brain. And guess what, you have help doing it. Our Holy Dad and the Holy Spirit gives courage, strength and endurance. You'll probably be pleasantly surprised that it the effort it takes isn't as bad as you had dreaded it to be.
Let's take a look at why we can believe that we are loved and lovable and worthy of it. 1 John 3:16 (GWT) says: "We understand what love is when we realize that Christ gave His life for us." The Message reads it this way: "This is how we've come to understand and experience love: Christ sacrificed His life for us." You see, my friend, He not only died for us, but suffered intense pain and humiliation. He didn't deserve any of this because He was perfect. So, why did He do it? Because He loves us. The worthiness comes from Christ as well. Love and worth.
Psalm 31:7 (NLT) says: "I will be glad and rejoice in Your unfailing love, for You have seen my troubles, and You care about the anguish of my soul." Yes, you can be glad and jump up and down because Christ's love is here to stay. You're stuck with it--so start enjoying it!! He loves you -- you and your messy emotions and behaviors. He knows the "real you" and loves you. Don't try to explain it in your head. Don't make excuses for not believing it. There's nothing you can do to stop His love. In fact, Romans 8:38 (GWT) tells us: "I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love which Christ Jesus our Lord shows us." Not even you can stop His love.
What I find exciting is the list of results that you will experience once you are healed of your unlove injury. Here it is found in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 (NLT):
Love is patient and kind. (Sound familiar?)
Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.
Love does not demand its own way.
Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.
It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
The Message reads this way:
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,
isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others, Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
Don't you want the above to describe you? Well, it can.
Jesus wants you to know that He loves you so much He wants to marry you. See for yourself--Hosea 2:19 (NLT): "I will make you My wife forever, showing you righteousness and justice, unfailing love and compassion." What a doting husband!
Now for the 21 days journal note:
Lord Jesus, I feel so unloved, unlovable and even unworthy to ask You to help me feel love. I feel that I don't have a right to seek love for myself and I truly don't know how to love You.
Jesus, according to 1 John 3:16 (GWT), I understand what true love is. I realize and acknowledge that You suffered pain and humiliation and death for me. I thank You from the deepest part of my heart.
And Holy Dad, (Psalm 31:7 {NLT}) I am very happy and ecstatic because You know the real me and my messy emotions and yet You love me anyway. And You care enough to want to help me recover from my internal pain. I love you, too, Lord! Thank You!!
End of journal note.
My friend, start showing love to your body and take excellent care of it. You may not feel natural about it at this time but when the healing sets in you will have established good health habits. The Right Feelings will come about.
Sisterly love to all, Wynndy
Worship our Lord this weekend!!
Friday, June 10, 2011
Monday, June 6, 2011
It's all about LOVE!!
Good lovely Monday morning to you all!! I am a little delayed in my blogging by a couple of days but sometimes life pops up and you have to deal with it. But I want to share that with all of the changes going on in my family's life--life is pretty good. My son is excited about a new dream career in firefighting. My daughter found the cutest little house for her and the children to live in. It feels like the Lord is making things happen to help me and Keevin move along to Boone. The move will happen around the last of August or first of September. Keep us in your prayers.
Today we are going to talk about love The ultimate love. I know for a fact that lots of us do not know how to love. God's greatest commandment is Mark 12:30-31 (NLT): "And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength. The second is equally important: Love your neighbor as yourself." What is the difference between soul-mind-strength? Well, The Message states this scripture as: "Jesus said, 'The first in importance is... love the Lord God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence and energy. And here is the second: Love others as well as you love yourself.'" Sounds like a good and right thing to do if a person loves himself.
Lots of us have missed out on feeling loved. Some of us have been loved but didn't perceive it that way--so those of us in that category still don't know what love feels like. Some of us have been abandoned emotionally or physically, misused and abused, ignored, belittled, felt unimportant, underestimted, misguided, and maybe even dispised. You know if one or more of these adjectives fit you. Most of the ones listed have the same if not similar outcomes. The main one is not feeling loved.
The unloved person just simply doesn't know how it feels to be loved, or to feel loved. This person doesn't feel worthy to be loved--because "if the most important person in the world didn't show love to me then how in the world can I be lovable. Something must be wrong with me." Have you made those statements to yourself? You have rehearsed it and perhaps audibly heard it from your authority source over and over that you are unlovable. Your brain believes it to be truth. It is written in stone. Or is it? "Are you saying that maybe it is not written in stone and maybe my authority source and my brain is wrong?" Yes, my loved one, that is what I am saying!! Satan has used lies and lots of them to steer you away from God's love.
Let me show you something: 1 John 4:18-19 (NKJV) says: "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear inovlves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. We love Him because He first loved us." What I want you to come away with is the fact of fear-----involves torment. The person who feels unloved can surely say he/she feels tormented.
Now look at the Amplified Bible's version of the same scripture: "There is no fear in love [dread does not exist], but full-grown (complete, perfect) love turns fear out of doors and expels every trace of terror! For fear brings with it the thought of punishment, and [so] he who is afraid has not reached the full maturity of love [is not yet grown into love's complete perfection]. We love Him, because He first loved us."
And then The Message says it this way: "There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life--fear of death, fear of judgment--is one not yet fully formed in love. We, though, are going to love--love and be loved. First we were loved, now we love. He loved us first." My loved one--do you hear the wonderful hope of love?!?!
Ok, so you hear the hope but how do you get the love? First of all you are already loved! God loved you before you were conceived. Beth Moore tells it beautifully in her updated "Breaking Free" Bible study that you can tell God "I love you, too" because you just simply cannot love Him first. I will be suggesting a 21 day journal note to help you get God's love into your mind and to change the truth that your brain recognizes. But I would like for you to earnestly ask our Good God to heal you of this unlove-injury and to help you to feel love for Him the way He wants you to and to feel love for yourself. He wants you to feel it and He already feels it for you. You are that important to Him. He does not underestimate you. He sees and hears you. He doesn't ingore you--but your unloved nature keeps you from developing a real relationship with Him. He will never abandon you, misuse or abuse you. He wants the best for you. He wants YOU! I also want to highly suggest that you memorize and quote daily one of the 1 John 4:18-19 scriptues. You choose the one you like best--the one that speaks to you.
Here goes the 21 day journal note:
Dear Holy Dad, just calling you Dad is hard for me to do as I do not know how a father's love feels--but You have told me that You love me. My Lord, I feel dead to love--but Your word assures me that I can be healed of the injury and that Your word will be what heals me. Please help me as I am of no help to myself. Thank You for what You are going to do.
1 John 4:18-19 (MSG) tells me: "There is no room in my love for fear. My well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life--fear of death, fear of judgment--is one not yet fully formed in love. I am gong to love--love and be loved. First I was loved, now I love. You loved me first."
And my precious Holy Father, help me to love You. Grow passion for You inside of me. I am commiting myself to prayer with You. I will learn and read Your word to increase my God intelligence. And my energies will be directed to serve you with my talents and gifts. You are so awesome and gracious to love me with so much love. Thank you for Your attention to me.
End of journal note.
My friend, as you sit there reading this blog I want you to unclench your fist, uncross your arms and lay your hands to your sides. This looks and feels more confidently. A few years ago I learned a very wonderful thing while taking voice lessons. My teacher convinced me to pull my shoulders back and drop them down in a relaxed fashion and to practice this all throughout the week. Imagine my surprise at the confidence I felt just by replacing my posture in a correct position. And my singing improved. Work on how you present your body to the public. Show others that you are loved. They will want the same love you have!!
Sincere sisterly love to all, Wynndy
Today we are going to talk about love The ultimate love. I know for a fact that lots of us do not know how to love. God's greatest commandment is Mark 12:30-31 (NLT): "And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength. The second is equally important: Love your neighbor as yourself." What is the difference between soul-mind-strength? Well, The Message states this scripture as: "Jesus said, 'The first in importance is... love the Lord God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence and energy. And here is the second: Love others as well as you love yourself.'" Sounds like a good and right thing to do if a person loves himself.
Lots of us have missed out on feeling loved. Some of us have been loved but didn't perceive it that way--so those of us in that category still don't know what love feels like. Some of us have been abandoned emotionally or physically, misused and abused, ignored, belittled, felt unimportant, underestimted, misguided, and maybe even dispised. You know if one or more of these adjectives fit you. Most of the ones listed have the same if not similar outcomes. The main one is not feeling loved.
The unloved person just simply doesn't know how it feels to be loved, or to feel loved. This person doesn't feel worthy to be loved--because "if the most important person in the world didn't show love to me then how in the world can I be lovable. Something must be wrong with me." Have you made those statements to yourself? You have rehearsed it and perhaps audibly heard it from your authority source over and over that you are unlovable. Your brain believes it to be truth. It is written in stone. Or is it? "Are you saying that maybe it is not written in stone and maybe my authority source and my brain is wrong?" Yes, my loved one, that is what I am saying!! Satan has used lies and lots of them to steer you away from God's love.
Let me show you something: 1 John 4:18-19 (NKJV) says: "There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear inovlves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. We love Him because He first loved us." What I want you to come away with is the fact of fear-----involves torment. The person who feels unloved can surely say he/she feels tormented.
Now look at the Amplified Bible's version of the same scripture: "There is no fear in love [dread does not exist], but full-grown (complete, perfect) love turns fear out of doors and expels every trace of terror! For fear brings with it the thought of punishment, and [so] he who is afraid has not reached the full maturity of love [is not yet grown into love's complete perfection]. We love Him, because He first loved us."
And then The Message says it this way: "There is no room in love for fear. Well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life--fear of death, fear of judgment--is one not yet fully formed in love. We, though, are going to love--love and be loved. First we were loved, now we love. He loved us first." My loved one--do you hear the wonderful hope of love?!?!
Ok, so you hear the hope but how do you get the love? First of all you are already loved! God loved you before you were conceived. Beth Moore tells it beautifully in her updated "Breaking Free" Bible study that you can tell God "I love you, too" because you just simply cannot love Him first. I will be suggesting a 21 day journal note to help you get God's love into your mind and to change the truth that your brain recognizes. But I would like for you to earnestly ask our Good God to heal you of this unlove-injury and to help you to feel love for Him the way He wants you to and to feel love for yourself. He wants you to feel it and He already feels it for you. You are that important to Him. He does not underestimate you. He sees and hears you. He doesn't ingore you--but your unloved nature keeps you from developing a real relationship with Him. He will never abandon you, misuse or abuse you. He wants the best for you. He wants YOU! I also want to highly suggest that you memorize and quote daily one of the 1 John 4:18-19 scriptues. You choose the one you like best--the one that speaks to you.
Here goes the 21 day journal note:
Dear Holy Dad, just calling you Dad is hard for me to do as I do not know how a father's love feels--but You have told me that You love me. My Lord, I feel dead to love--but Your word assures me that I can be healed of the injury and that Your word will be what heals me. Please help me as I am of no help to myself. Thank You for what You are going to do.
1 John 4:18-19 (MSG) tells me: "There is no room in my love for fear. My well-formed love banishes fear. Since fear is crippling, a fearful life--fear of death, fear of judgment--is one not yet fully formed in love. I am gong to love--love and be loved. First I was loved, now I love. You loved me first."
And my precious Holy Father, help me to love You. Grow passion for You inside of me. I am commiting myself to prayer with You. I will learn and read Your word to increase my God intelligence. And my energies will be directed to serve you with my talents and gifts. You are so awesome and gracious to love me with so much love. Thank you for Your attention to me.
End of journal note.
My friend, as you sit there reading this blog I want you to unclench your fist, uncross your arms and lay your hands to your sides. This looks and feels more confidently. A few years ago I learned a very wonderful thing while taking voice lessons. My teacher convinced me to pull my shoulders back and drop them down in a relaxed fashion and to practice this all throughout the week. Imagine my surprise at the confidence I felt just by replacing my posture in a correct position. And my singing improved. Work on how you present your body to the public. Show others that you are loved. They will want the same love you have!!
Sincere sisterly love to all, Wynndy
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