Happy end to the work week to my readers!! Do me a favor and make plans (definite plans) to have an extremely good weekend. We have collected boxes and newspapers (for wrapping fragiles) to move our family to Maria's house--so we have our work cut out for us. Keevin is so ready to move on to Boone, NC and start the new church plant but we have a little time left here with our family.
Did last weeks blog speak to you? If it did we will discuss it some more today. The whole unloved issue is a big one but it is very worth tackling. Did you start the 21 day journal note toward your healing? No, you say? Well, you can't expect a different life if you don't do life differently. Give it a try--it's only 21 days. And don't forget to talk to God straight up about anything that is bothering you and find a spot in the Bible to concentrate on and read. Your life will definitely change.
An interesting discussion took place in our circle of friends last night--the group that meets at my house on Thursdays for "Breaking Free" Beth Moore Bible study. Everyone of us has had the same unworthy, ugly, stupid feelings about ourselves. We concluded that a large percentage of women feel the same way. We are breaking the #1 confidence element found in Galatians 5:22-23 (love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control). #1 is of course, love. Webster defines love as: strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties. This totally sounds like God's love for us. As a believer and follower of Jesus Christ we are adopted into God's family. We are children of the almighty God!! And He cares for us in a very personal way--you just need to experience it--you won't want to live without it again. Did you notice that I said we are "breaking" the # 1 confidence element? What does "breaking the feeling of love" mean? The opposite of love is hate. Webster defines hate as: an intense hostility and aversion usually deriving fror fear, anger, or sense of injury. That definition completely fits the feelings we have about ourselves. So, how do I stop breaking the # 1 confidence element? Accept the truth!
One of my friends expressed to me that my explanation of the sub and unconscious mind clicked with her. I reported on the unconscious mind back in the May 6, 2011 blog, but I'll refresh your memory. As a child and adult the thoughts, and words spoken to us are filtered through our mind. Our brain decides whether to accept the thought or reject it based on if it seems like truth. If an authority figure told you something, especially repeatedly, then the child brain is going to accept it as truth whether it is a lie or not. Those so-called truths come out in slips of the tongue or behavor or dreams. As an adult who has been informed of the wrongfulness of your so-called truths, it is your responsiblity to retrain your brain. And guess what, you have help doing it. Our Holy Dad and the Holy Spirit gives courage, strength and endurance. You'll probably be pleasantly surprised that it the effort it takes isn't as bad as you had dreaded it to be.
Let's take a look at why we can believe that we are loved and lovable and worthy of it. 1 John 3:16 (GWT) says: "We understand what love is when we realize that Christ gave His life for us." The Message reads it this way: "This is how we've come to understand and experience love: Christ sacrificed His life for us." You see, my friend, He not only died for us, but suffered intense pain and humiliation. He didn't deserve any of this because He was perfect. So, why did He do it? Because He loves us. The worthiness comes from Christ as well. Love and worth.
Psalm 31:7 (NLT) says: "I will be glad and rejoice in Your unfailing love, for You have seen my troubles, and You care about the anguish of my soul." Yes, you can be glad and jump up and down because Christ's love is here to stay. You're stuck with it--so start enjoying it!! He loves you -- you and your messy emotions and behaviors. He knows the "real you" and loves you. Don't try to explain it in your head. Don't make excuses for not believing it. There's nothing you can do to stop His love. In fact, Romans 8:38 (GWT) tells us: "I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God's love which Christ Jesus our Lord shows us." Not even you can stop His love.
What I find exciting is the list of results that you will experience once you are healed of your unlove injury. Here it is found in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 (NLT):
Love is patient and kind. (Sound familiar?)
Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.
Love does not demand its own way.
Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged.
It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
The Message reads this way:
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self.
Love doesn't want what it doesn't have.
Love doesn't strut,
Doesn't have a swelled head,
Doesn't force itself on others,
isn't always "me first,"
Doesn't fly off the handle,
Doesn't keep score of the sins of others, Doesn't revel when others grovel,
Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth,
Puts up with anything,
Trusts God always,
Always looks for the best,
Never looks back,
But keeps going to the end.
Don't you want the above to describe you? Well, it can.
Jesus wants you to know that He loves you so much He wants to marry you. See for yourself--Hosea 2:19 (NLT): "I will make you My wife forever, showing you righteousness and justice, unfailing love and compassion." What a doting husband!
Now for the 21 days journal note:
Lord Jesus, I feel so unloved, unlovable and even unworthy to ask You to help me feel love. I feel that I don't have a right to seek love for myself and I truly don't know how to love You.
Jesus, according to 1 John 3:16 (GWT), I understand what true love is. I realize and acknowledge that You suffered pain and humiliation and death for me. I thank You from the deepest part of my heart.
And Holy Dad, (Psalm 31:7 {NLT}) I am very happy and ecstatic because You know the real me and my messy emotions and yet You love me anyway. And You care enough to want to help me recover from my internal pain. I love you, too, Lord! Thank You!!
End of journal note.
My friend, start showing love to your body and take excellent care of it. You may not feel natural about it at this time but when the healing sets in you will have established good health habits. The Right Feelings will come about.
Sisterly love to all, Wynndy
Worship our Lord this weekend!!
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